People always talk about how
they wish for a different life. But that is what most people do, just
wish and want. They fail to direct their energy in appropriate ways
to actuate change successfully.
First of all, change requires a new way of how we think about things.
Changing our thoughts is the primary step toward effecting real change
in our behavior. Instead of repressing our feelings, idle wishfully
or set aside our dreams, and deem change as unachievable or self-forgetting,
rather we might intend to address issues that block our ability to
create a life full of love and happiness. For lasting change out of
old patterns it is necessary go to the root to transform harmful ways,
thinking and behaving. Transformation occurs when we place our attention
around such issues.
Fear is the great self abnegator. It is some “thing” we
conjure up in our minds procuring illusions from and then base it
as reality. And then we build our whole lives around that false belief.
Since illusion is not fact, the fearful “thing” often
has little to do with what we actually fear. It is a fabrication supported
by a thought chain of “what if’s” that keep us limited.
Fear, wishing and wanting keeps us in self-survival. It is reactionary
of something much deeper--something self-defeating to keep us small.
Don’t give in to such limitation, understand the nature of fear
and it drops away.
I always have wondered why people are so fearful of change when change
is a natural process that occurs instantly and eternally? Ponder that
the only thing in the universe that remains constant is change…change
is our friend. We change from moment to moment but can’t see
it. It must be fear of the known then that causes us to be so afraid—a
deep seeded fear that everything could stay the same, nothing new
or exciting, how boring, how mechanical and utterly depressing! Our
nature is to expand and yet we climb into a box and put the lid on
it. This is where our blocks come in. We might ask ourselves, “What
is the worst that could happen if we change?”
Oftentimes we jump so far ahead of ourselves projecting our fear into
the future that we freak our selves out and mummify our minds to the
extent that we move into paralysis. That is change, but in a negative
direction…it is regressive. Other times, too, when people have
long held diseases or have been overweight most of their lives they
don’t want to let go. They are so attached to the dis-ease that
it has become a part of their identity and they don’t know who
they are without it. This is a main reason why people don’t
Transformation is a healing. Perhaps, if we change the context, the
way we wrap our minds around something, we might find change to be
an exuberant process of self discovery that it is. Think of the process
of change as a creative partner. Doing this leads to all sorts of
innovations along the way. When we release the need to know exactly
how change will occur, we open ourselves to a world of infinite possibilities
for how our goals will eventually be realized.
So, how do we apply the naturally occurring energy of change in a
directed way? Well, since change requires an open mind, we need to
step out of the mental kennel we have imprisoned ourselves in. The
next step is to open to creativity. We need not be an artist as we
all have a creative urge within that seeks to be expressed. The energy
of change is our sense of adventure, so a measure of fearlessness
and risk tolerance is necessary—this is our ability to just
“go for it” without tripping over the “I can’ts.”
Flexibility is being okay with what is at the moment in the ebb and
flow of life--all things in nature arise and pass away. What may be
so for us one day may not be the same for the next. When it is time
to be still, be still and when it is time to be active, be active.
When we hold tightly to the illusion of permanence we fail to succeed.
Let go of fear and give in to flow!
The natural shifting of our moods should not sway us off our creative
path. If so, we must remember why we chose to shift in the first place
and refocus our attention on cultivating positive, life-affirming
changes even in the face of shedding old patterns of thought and behaviors.
The key to setting achievable goals is by sustaining clear intention
and focused attention on making purposeful changes. Holding our intention
mindfully is critical for partnering with the inevitable creative
chaos of change. It is inevitable that successful change will happen.
We may choose to leap or take incremental steps. Both are change and
change is a process.
Decide what you want to change. Be clear about it. Now apply
these three components for successful change: Intention, attention,
1. Change itself is the intention. What is needed is specificity
about the nature of what we want to change and a clear delineation
of incremental steps for successful completion. Write your intention
in a journal.
2. Attention is the effort and energy we apply to making change
a reality. This undivided attention can take the form of mental,
physical, emotional or spiritual efforts to be wholly focused
on specific goals.
3. Remembering is a gentle, compassionate, active reminding
of our intention for change. Remembering why we want to change
is a critical part in manifesting that change. We may lose interest
and feel doubtful or even overwhelmed at times, so remembering
our goals (that we journaled) reinvigorates our intention and
refocuses attention. Both are important allies in our effort
to create change.