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The development of addictive patterns are characteristic of not getting our emotional needs met somewhere in our lives. Usually stemming from early conditionings in childhood, habits are developed because we have not lived something out of natural existence without discipline, bribe or terror. Our natural growth cycle of freedom and expression, the processes and urges that are immanent for the development of healthy self-regulation are hampered through the interference of a prohibitive system of rules and abuse created from psychological trans-generational “sins” of the parent, aloof behavior and useless talk. The fatal imprint of bad home influences those that have no values, no knowledge of what a child thinks or feels and whose lack of dignity results in ruination leaves very little escape for the child from the destructive cycle of character distortion. The unaware home simply does not understand the workings of freedom and the handicaps imposed upon children from that lack of freedom to be expressed. For healthy childhood development, a young person must feel that a parent is on his or her side and is dignified in the freedom or flow of full expression.
Without that understanding in a rational environment a child suffers under the wrong teaching methods as victim of the dysfunctional family. A home that yields fear and conflict is a home whose examples set the stage for future conflict and resistance in the life of the child reflected as negative mood states. For example, when anxious parents push a child ahead too fast, a child builds resentment and develops an unconscious determination of not letting the parents win and resistance takes form. That very stage of consciousness where natural unfoldment or completion of a particular phase in life is curtailed, a protective web of distortion is built around that emotional wound, safe for the secret unrequited urges to unfold whose control is manifested as neurotic and compulsive behaviors. The reliance of these neurotic and compulsive behaviors assumes a feeling of control and because we have control we can rely on these behaviors to always be there, which in turn gives us the feeling of safety. In the emotional realm the distorted energy manifestations result in two ways: as an over-emphasis or over-stimulation of expression through the pleasure principle, or as inhibition or hidden retention that shrinks us from life. Functioning between these extremes is the inherent need for balance. Repressed states of consciousness become patterns in a vicious cycle of persistent cravings (i.e. pleasure principle) that does not allow proper integration and assimilation to occur because emotional reaction is hidden behind the unrequited urges from early childhood experiences and later, there is an inability to cope with life’s compounding stressors.
As we can see, we are not born with emotional habits they are learned. All learned behavioral patterns and critical inner dialogue become so thoroughly learned that their repeated episodes have become automatic that we hold vague conscious memory as to where we first acquired them. Pulling the roots of these lifelong conditioned patterns requires a degree of self-analysis within a cognitive framework. For those in the human family that truly seek betterment and whose directive will is strong enough to empty the pain of an unfulfilled life, can so begin to examine the counterproductive and self-defeating patterns of incompletion that has rendered the personality emotionally exhausted and powerless to change.
While we could continue on the path of pain that leads to the pit of despair there is an alternative route to our suffering that requires an investigative awareness that will bring us to intelligent choice. This refined awareness frees us from the recoiling and grasping of life to a more responsive channel of free will. Our choices, moment by moment help us to discover what will happen next. But, without the capacity of mind to choose intelligently, the bifurcation of our mind and body will perpetuate the vicious cycle of habitual responses that play out in varying degrees in our lives until we break the spell of its addictive quality. The vicious cycle is the controlling factor whose cause and effect pattern eventuates its function within the Law of Attraction. This means that because energy follows thought, that wherever the mind focuses all its attention it attracts to the area of distress that results in becoming steadily worsened rather than getting better. Let us begin an examination of how our emotional energy patterns move from thought, to feeling and impressed into our physical body.
Again, it is a question of where the center of our attention lies. Our first attempt is to investigate which will bring to question our mental and emotional habits and their corresponding physical actions. Then we may begin to challenge the assumptions of our habits that justify them. As we focus on the details of our habits we gain a wider perspective on what is happening within our selves. This allows us more choice in how we respond. When we are diligent, patient and consistent in our discovery process we are able to chart our emotional terrain with greater understanding and ease.
Law of Attraction~ From our focused attention or indiscriminate grasping of things a magnetic motion of energy gathers out of the immediate surrounding environment impressing forces to appear to us in a dynamic and forceful way facilitating change.
©Alisa Battaglia, Excerpted from "The Divine Septenary"